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05 January 2012

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Jen_Savasta

Is it possible that a person can sit down and write a blog knowing there is someone out there that really needed to read it on that same day? Probably not but thanks because I needed to read this today.

I struggle daily with the question of do I want to be a mom? Hell, I shocked my own family at Christmas when asked the envitable question, "when are you getting married" with the response, "maybe never."

I always say I'm far too selfish to take on either one of those roles. Having just turned 30, I may change my mind. Maybe not. But you know what? It's my life and my regrets to deal with. Again, thanks for this. I applaud your brutal honesty and share most of the exact same sentiments.

Jennifer

blaugra

Jennifer, thanks so much for your comment.

When I was 30 I had the same thoughts as you do even though I had just gotten married. My family expected me to have kids soon after but I kept putting everything else first, and I kept feeling undecided, and my husband kept saying he didn't want to be a father. All those things (and nature too,with pregnancies that failed)led to where I am.

blaugra

One of my parental friends said to me off-line, in response to this post, "You can call me 'bitch' and I'll call you 'mama'!"

Kinda funny. I loved that.

lg

(Deep breath)

I don't even know what to say except that I admire you and your honesty more than you'll ever know. I am not even that honest with myself let alone friends/ readers/ lurkers/ strangers. Goes to show you that having kids does not make you a grown-up. I have a lot of growing up to do, clearly.

BTW, yesterday we were reading one of the books you got the girls once (because there's been more than one time) and it was autographed by the author. I though to myself, "Who does that?" . . . "Who takes the time to get a book personally signed by an author for a little kid?"

Then I remembered.

Aunt Laura.

Who's more of a Mama bear than she'll ever know.

blaugra

lg, you're very sweet. Thank you.

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