"Have you ever been in a meeting and wanted to speak up, but didn’t? Perhaps it wasn’t the right time. Maybe you couldn’t get a word in edgewise, and afterwards, you were disappointed, frustrated, or both."
Research showed "While men said their female colleagues weren’t loud enough, allowed others to interrupt them, apologized often, and failed to back up their opinions with evidence, women reported they felt outnumbered and have difficulty reading the room, were uncomfortable with conflict, and any trouble articulating their views was due to timing rather than emotions."
Not loud enough.
I was raised to be quiet. I was praised for being quiet for 18 or more years. I was admonished for loudness, in every way. This is ingrained. So my constant challenge is how do I change the grain?
Any trouble articulating our views is due to timing, not emotions.
When you're a listener, when's the right time to state your opinion or ask your questions? It can be hard to read a room, especially when it's the first time with a particular group. And we girls know well enough now not to start off a meeting contribution with "I'm sorry, but..." No no no.
The article makes a few suggestions, like "prepare to be spontaneous" and hang around after the meeting with the guys for a few beers... um yeah, I rarely want to do that these days. I'd rather just get shit done.As usual with Fast Company, I'm left unsatisfied. I should speak up and tell them that.